The Unspoken Me

In response to: "Drinking and interfering family" 891 days old
by silence645 [Member]

some questions just dont need answer... more…

In response to: "Dirty secrets" 908 days old
by Arrow [Member]

Thanks for the reply - and sorry if I sounded like I was coming down hard on you.

I won't pretend to know what u r going thru because each experience - gud or bad - is personal to the person.

Just please don't self-destruct. Drinking urself into oblivion might get urself into more situations where u r not in control. At more…

In response to: "Dirty secrets" 908 days old
by nafisa1 [Member]

I know and really understand what you're saying about pressing charges against him for the safety of others, it's played on my mind countless times but I just feel I've left it too late. Social services must have it recorded because they were told and present when my family found out and it was them who asked me to if I wanted to press charges init more…

In response to: "Dirty secrets" 909 days old
by Arrow [Member]

What I am about to say is easier said than done but you need to be strong and take charge of your life. Only you can do it. It won't happen overnight but you can make a start.

If your parents won't fight for you and protect you then you need to do it.

You need to make a conscious decision that you will not put up with th more…

In response to: "Dirty secrets" 914 days old
by nafisa1 [Member]

Aww thankyou. I've been thinking it over forever it seems like. If my brothers knew or another family member they wouldn't hesitate in murdering him. If I was honest I've been tempted to tell my brothers because I know they's make him pay but I don't want anyone to get hurt. I'd like to be normal and be in control of myself and to be able to feel g more…

In response to: "Dirty secrets" 914 days old
by sarahjane1234 [Member]

I cannot understand the actions of your parents, I cannot understand anyone in this situation not wanting to commit murder! But Im sure they have there reasons. In my opinion, just the fact that they still have contact, looks to me like they find his behaviour acceptable. BUT I do not know what goes on in there heads, and as I said, to them, there more…

In response to: "Dirty secrets" 914 days old
by nafisa1 [Member]

In October when he came and I stopped speaking to my parents they asked me what my problem was. I was upset that they didn't realise so I just shouted at them and told them I'd leave if he came back. He hasn't but they visit his house which is their call, it just feels as if they don't care by still seeing him. Maybe I'm asking for too much but it more…

In response to: "Dirty secrets" 914 days old
by sarahjane1234 [Member]

You are NOT to blame. Surely your parents can keep this quiet, stop other people finding out, but still keep the man away from you? If they stopped him coming to the house, stopped any contact this wouldnt mean people would know? more…

In response to: "Dirty secrets" 914 days old
by nafisa1 [Member]

I'm really sorry to hear about your son. I'll pray for him. It's good to hear you're there for him, though it should be like that it doesn't always happen. No it has nothing to do with religion, just saving face in the asian community. It's ridiculous how for most asians their lives revolve around honour and respect from strangers. They don't want more…

In response to: "Dirty secrets" 914 days old
by sarahjane1234 [Member]

I am so sorry, my son was recently abused...i know if the guy ever came anywhere near me id kill him. I cannot understand the reasons behind your parents actions, but im sure there must be a reason for it, for them. Maybe religion? shame? Are they trying to fool themselves that everyting is ok, to shut it out? who knows. It must be awful for you. more…

In response to: "Who am I ?" 934 days old
by Gumbanu [Member]

who would you like to be? more…

In response to: ""Black magic/ rubbish"" 936 days old
by lyndlj [Member]

Its very hard to be you when everyone wants you to be someone else. Even harder when typical behaviours are expected of you.

But, from what you have said you were just a typical teenager, nothing more sinister than that. Your family sound as though on the whole they have managed to allow you to have that freedom to be yourself, and suc more…